A very sacred part of 'the exchange' has been removed from transactions in the western world. We buy and sell, give and take and leave very little space to honor what I call, Sacred Reciprocity.
We have all given and we have all received a gift in our lives that was full of intention and love.
It's conscious intention, love and integrity that convey the essence of Sacred Reciprocity.
A conversation between friends is best when there is sacred reciprocity- listening and holding space- being fully present when one is speaking and REALLY BEING there. This is sacred reciprocity.
Selling is a perfect playground for sacred reciprocity. When you have something you believe in, a solution, a tool, an offer you fully believe will benefit the other person, how can you not offer it? How can you withhold? When it comes to giving away services for free, how many of you give your time then feel resentment or some twinge of, "I could really have used that income." It cancels the gift.
Moreover, when you share a solution with someone, your time, your service, or your expertise, you are giving them the gift of opportunity -The opportunity to invest in themselves.
This idea is so foreign to us because we've been raised to want to 'get' things for free and 'get' the discount and save money. Of course saving money is wonderful yet we have completely distorted the essence of sacred reciprocity which gives the buyer the wonderful feeling of investing in themselves. And, moreover the opportunity to exercise integrity if they choose to decline. Integrity in a decline means closing the energetic loop opened when both parties consented to a conversation around needs and solutions.
There are 3 Parts to Sacred Reciprocity:
This looks uncanily like a contract! A contract requires and offer, acceptance and consideration ($ or value exchanged).
A Sacred Reciprocity offer is one where both parties have agreed there are needs and one has a solution. The one with the solution offers this to the one who has needs. Sacred reciprocity isn't so much the offer as it is the intention, the energy and the process of exchange. Listening, feeling, hearing, seeing and understanding are important parts to this step.
Sacred Reciprocity very much lives in the realm of gifting and often the consideration is love, friendship, or some other relational exchange.
A tip when offering your solution to someone's need is to make sure you are in Sacred Reciprocity with yourself. Make sure you're not undercharging, make sure you are in alignment with what you are giving and make sure you are grounded in your inner power coming from a place of integrity.
2. Acceptance or Decline
When you're in right relationship with yourself you honor the other person in an exchange. When both people come from a place of integrity, there is an understanding that an energy has been opened through an offer.
So often I engage in conversations with people struggling in their businesses and offer them a solution only to never hear from them again. For others it's a yes and we're on to Part 3, Consideration. Some people are clear it is not the right time for them to engage with my solution and they come forward and let me know. This closes the energetic circle that was opened with the consent of both people and forms a beautiful closure to the conversation.
One place to check in with yourself is to notice if you're someone who intentionally calls in a conversation and leaves it open by avoiding the conversation that says, "I'm not ready now," or "This is a no for me." When we're feeling fulfilled in our lives it's often a reflection of the energy we're putting out to the world- and one place to close the energy loop is in making sure you're owning your part in the energy of sacred reciprocity no matter what the outcome is.
Consideration is value exchanged. I've recently had several clients (almost at the same time) ask a question about pricing and the answer to all of them had every thing to do with sacred reciprocity. Are you in a fair exchange? Are you over delivering? Are you charging what you feel is a fair and lovely exchange? Does it feel like it's in sacred reciprocity? Are you in right relationship with the value exchange?
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Following these three steps when engaging in an exchange will prevent resentment, prevent open ended energy loops that end up zapping energy from both sides of the exchange, and it will cause a windfall of abundance to land upon you! Yes abundance responds very quickly to sacred reciprocity on both sides of the coin (no pun intended).
So how can you tune the vibration of your exchanges up a notch (Both on the giving and receiving/ selling and buying ends)?
What are you doing that unbeknownst to you, is causing an energy leak in your revenue flow? What can you do to solve this challenge by applying the principle of Sacred Reciprocity?
Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
Be True to You!
The Influence of Support:
We all need friends, love, family, colleagues. We all need support. We're not meant to go at this life alone. When left to our own devices we may not always be our own best counsel. When it comes to making a choice or decision or moving out of a stuck place and especially when we need to stop manifesting cyclical situations causing unmitigated stress in our lives, having the RIGHT support is key.
(Photo: Care of Chrisy Love- This is her baby.)
Have you ever felt the pure love of a baby shift you out of a negative state? That's the right support in that moment. It's not likely you'll be triggered by something the baby says.
In coaching hundreds of professionals and in being a highly sensitive person myself, I see a need for the Pause. Pause before you reach out for support because no support is better then the wrong support.
Pause & Ask Yourself These 3 Questions:
1. Why am I called to reach out or talk to this person? Is it just because they're available, they always give me time, they love me, they want what's best for me, they know my story?
2. What kind of support do I really need and can this person give it to me? Not everyone is at a level of self-knowledge that they can answer this for themselves. Knowing whether you need support from someone who knows who you are striving to become, versus who you once were or appear to be now through their eyes, is an advanced skill and an important one to hone or you risk being held back by invisible hooks called 'the wrong support.'
3. What is the outcome I want from a conversation with this person? Do you want emotional support? Do you want them to collude with your story to validate how you feel? Do you want them to highlight a blindspot to help you make the right decision? Do you want them to make the decision for you? Do you want them to remind you what your higher self really wants and is in alignment with who you are striving to become? Do you want them to acknowledge you and hold you as powerful while helping you weight the benefits and costs?
We've all been in that place or that twist or bind and meditated, ruminated, or pondered our question, yet still felt the need to bounce it off of someone else. It helps to clarify our thoughts and reflect what we're feeling and helps us see beyond stress, confusion, doubt, worry, fear, or even absolute enthusiasm.
So what do we do? You call a parent- or you call your old friend who is always there for you yet you realize -only by the hallow feeling in your chest- that you made a mistake. When you're on the superhighway of personal evolution it's better to reach out for the RIGHT support than to reach out for any support. Different situations call for different support.
Sometimes you may just need some good lovin. That's not that same thing as a big life decision where you're looking for feedback and solid reflection.
Something quite fierce was recently weighing on me. I chose to be silent and listen from within. For a while this was fine and I was receiving the internal cues I needed to know I was on the right track.
Then a bit of anxiety came over and I needed to diffuse. I could have been calm and quiet and sought from within, I could have thought specifically who would be the RIGHT person to consult with in this very specific situation, or I could have paused long enough to take myself through the very decision making process I teach my clients. (super cool)
I didn't do any of the above. I fell back into an old habit and reacted.
I was stressed, driving, exhausted and it was a long day. I needed love, connection and support now. Do you know this feeling? I called someone who knows the old me- they have a vested interest in my success and happiness, they have their own way of seeing the world and although they've changed a lot over the years, they still may not have the same view of my agenda.
I called anyway.
Result? More anxiety, self doubt and all kinds of unreasonable what ifs.... I was better off not making that call. This person came from 100% good intention yet they were not the RIGHT support.
Remediation? Afterward... I reached out to a colleague who knows my Soul. Knows what takes me out, knows who I really am at the very core of my being and knows my purpose here in this life. She is the RIGHT support. I knew this friend was at a conference and my first thought was 'I won't bother her.'
Instead I decided to ask for what I needed and reached out to my colleague. The point is when we're up against a big decision or next move, sometimes our loved ones or other mentors who know us in a certain way are not the ones to give advice or reflection.
Know Your People
Know your 'Board of Directors' -your friends and trusted advisers who know your Soul, know your deepest desires, and potentially know your logistical situation are your Board. Assign them in advance so you know who to reach out to for what.
Receiving counsel and reflection from someone who can hold you as powerful, hold the vision of you who you truly desire to be, not who you were, and someone who understands your agenda and your Soul's agenda is mandatory if you want to move forward. Anything else keeps you stuck or pulls you back. Resonate?
If you don't have a community or at least one confidant who has your forward movement, your deep inner purpose or your highest potential at heart, hire a coach, an adviser, a consultant, a lawyer, a healer, an astrologist... in other words put together your spiritual and logistical support team and make sure they are as evolved or more evolved than you.
This may sound woo-woo- it's not. It's called 'being heard, being seen, being acknowledged for the true gifts you are here to actualize in this lifetime.' If you're in a place of big decisions and they are going to impact how you align with your purpose and future intent- you need some targeted and intentional counsel.
What does this mean for you? Do you resonate? When was the last time you reached out to the wrong person who just couldn't validate your feelings and give you the type of honest and powerful reflection you needed?
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I would love to hear your comments below. Does this post resonate? Do you ever fall into a default and reach out for the wrong support? What's the impact?
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