A very sacred part of 'the exchange' has been removed from transactions in the western world. We buy and sell, give and take and leave very little space to honor what I call, Sacred Reciprocity.
We have all given and we have all received a gift in our lives that was full of intention and love.
It's conscious intention, love and integrity that convey the essence of Sacred Reciprocity.
A conversation between friends is best when there is sacred reciprocity- listening and holding space- being fully present when one is speaking and REALLY BEING there. This is sacred reciprocity.
Selling is a perfect playground for sacred reciprocity. When you have something you believe in, a solution, a tool, an offer you fully believe will benefit the other person, how can you not offer it? How can you withhold? When it comes to giving away services for free, how many of you give your time then feel resentment or some twinge of, "I could really have used that income." It cancels the gift.
Moreover, when you share a solution with someone, your time, your service, or your expertise, you are giving them the gift of opportunity -The opportunity to invest in themselves.
This idea is so foreign to us because we've been raised to want to 'get' things for free and 'get' the discount and save money. Of course saving money is wonderful yet we have completely distorted the essence of sacred reciprocity which gives the buyer the wonderful feeling of investing in themselves. And, moreover the opportunity to exercise integrity if they choose to decline. Integrity in a decline means closing the energetic loop opened when both parties consented to a conversation around needs and solutions.
There are 3 Parts to Sacred Reciprocity:
This looks uncanily like a contract! A contract requires and offer, acceptance and consideration ($ or value exchanged).
A Sacred Reciprocity offer is one where both parties have agreed there are needs and one has a solution. The one with the solution offers this to the one who has needs. Sacred reciprocity isn't so much the offer as it is the intention, the energy and the process of exchange. Listening, feeling, hearing, seeing and understanding are important parts to this step.
Sacred Reciprocity very much lives in the realm of gifting and often the consideration is love, friendship, or some other relational exchange.
A tip when offering your solution to someone's need is to make sure you are in Sacred Reciprocity with yourself. Make sure you're not undercharging, make sure you are in alignment with what you are giving and make sure you are grounded in your inner power coming from a place of integrity.
2. Acceptance or Decline
When you're in right relationship with yourself you honor the other person in an exchange. When both people come from a place of integrity, there is an understanding that an energy has been opened through an offer.
So often I engage in conversations with people struggling in their businesses and offer them a solution only to never hear from them again. For others it's a yes and we're on to Part 3, Consideration. Some people are clear it is not the right time for them to engage with my solution and they come forward and let me know. This closes the energetic circle that was opened with the consent of both people and forms a beautiful closure to the conversation.
One place to check in with yourself is to notice if you're someone who intentionally calls in a conversation and leaves it open by avoiding the conversation that says, "I'm not ready now," or "This is a no for me." When we're feeling fulfilled in our lives it's often a reflection of the energy we're putting out to the world- and one place to close the energy loop is in making sure you're owning your part in the energy of sacred reciprocity no matter what the outcome is.
Consideration is value exchanged. I've recently had several clients (almost at the same time) ask a question about pricing and the answer to all of them had every thing to do with sacred reciprocity. Are you in a fair exchange? Are you over delivering? Are you charging what you feel is a fair and lovely exchange? Does it feel like it's in sacred reciprocity? Are you in right relationship with the value exchange?
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Following these three steps when engaging in an exchange will prevent resentment, prevent open ended energy loops that end up zapping energy from both sides of the exchange, and it will cause a windfall of abundance to land upon you! Yes abundance responds very quickly to sacred reciprocity on both sides of the coin (no pun intended).
So how can you tune the vibration of your exchanges up a notch (Both on the giving and receiving/ selling and buying ends)?
What are you doing that unbeknownst to you, is causing an energy leak in your revenue flow? What can you do to solve this challenge by applying the principle of Sacred Reciprocity?
Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
Be True to You!