How do we get what we want? The Law of Cause and Effect. How do we change? Negotiate.
Cause: Long ago your life experience began implanting a strategy in your subconscious mind to protect you from harm. How perfectly this part of your brain works! That's it's job- keep you safe. At times you may want different things than are showing up for you in life, however, your subconscious mind may be hijacking the desires of your conscious mind. How does this look in real time?
Let's take business or sales for example. You have to promote yourself and sell, negotiate or win on your position. You have a subconscious abhorance for arrogant people. Somewhere in time you've been taught (parents, loved ones, teachers....) that it is arrogant to self promote and arrogant to be a sales person. Somewhere else in time you made a connection to a transaction involving money to sales and connected this to arrogance. Ok, so now somewhere deep in your subconscious mind it's arrogant to sell your position.
Now you're finding it hard to 'convince' people why you're right, it's down right impossible to close a sale and forget about raising your fees because "you're not really worth that much" (cancel cancel!)
Effect: The effect shows up as our circumstances. When we are feeling in alignment we are usually aligned in our subconcious and concsious desires. The goal is to align these two in all areas of your life. When we're not getting what we want in life, we can trace the effect to the cause and transform the root. It's not easy. It takes courage, commitment and decision.
Most people don't go here voluntarily and for most of us, the subconscious strategy is to trick you and make it difficult to see the patterns designed to create the exact effects in life you're getting. In fact- we are usually getting what we don't want!
What we don't want consciously is what we want subconsciously! You may be pissed off by hearing that. That's where the transformation lies...being willing to trace the links in your chain of causation to understand WHY and CHANGE it INTENTIONALLY! How do we do this? We have to negotiate with our subconscious mind.
We have to understand the story and the links in the chain. Your subconscious mind wants to keep the status quo and it will go out of it's way to do so. I highly recommend working with a blind spot spotter (I'm good for this!) to help you navigate these paths. What you don't want to know you will not easily see.
Negotiate: Negotiate with your subconscious mind to change the strategy placed in it. How do you negotiate? You need to know what the other side wants. You need to know why it wants what it wants and have a strategy to give it what it thinks it wants while getting what you say you want. How?
"We get what we negotiate not what we deserve." I read this quote in a magazine on a plane long ago and it stuck. I've made a study of how the circumstances in my life measure what I say I want. In becoming super tuned in to the nuances of my own psyche and psychic tendencies, I also read why others get what they get when they say they want something totally different.
Life is not happening to you. It's happening for you. When you connect the links in the chain of causation, you find the root cause by unlocking parts of your subconscious mind. For some, the answers are close to the surface- or even in the conscious mind. For others, it's a deep dive to uncover why you're getting the results you're getting and why you're attracting situations and circumstances that don't match what you say you want.
It's not always obvious because much of the time your subconscious mind trumps your conscious desire. What you think you want is not what your subconscious mind always wants and unless your desires are intentionally and strategically focused and followed by actions to override your subconscious programming, you may keep getting what you always got and NOT what you think you want. BUT WHY WOULD THIS BE SO?
Your subconscious mind is constantly giving you ideas and strategies to give you what it needs to comply with the strategy placed in it. When you were very young you developed coping mechanisms, beliefs about how the world works, beliefs about what money means and how to hold space for money, ask for it, demand what you need, hold boundaries (or not), give and receive love, how to move in this world.
I've spent decades studying myself and others through coaching, the practice of law, energy medicine techniques, spiritual learning and mentorship, and studying brain science. Year after year of rewiring my subconscious mind I would keep getting the old thing. My determination led me to understand the law of cause and effect -not from a cognitive perspective but from real time experience.
The old strategy was so strong I didn't realize how many blind spots there were. My commitment to personal transformation in every area of my life (some areas came easy while others were completely hidden from view) means I ALWAYS work with someone else who can see my blind spots- pull me forward- show me what I don't even know I don't know and thus- activate my full potential.
Why change the root cause? You don't have to. You can keep blaming the Universe for your results and circumstances in life. Or you can decide you want to activate your full potential and be willing to hear what needs to be heard, feel what needs to be felt and see what needs to be seen- to transform at the root level and blow yourself out of the water with your true power. Ready? Willing? Able?
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