The Dangers of Hiring a Coach

In response to this Harvard Business Review Article- poignant and palatable... The Very Real Dangers of Executive Coaching, ....

"Executive/ Leadership- coaching in general demands a holistic approach -full body, mind, soul, business, relationships, money, power, law, universal law, influence... all these portals on the table- you've got to be able to hold the space."


I believe a special and holistic method is needed for coaching influential executives at the top tier and I'm taking a stand for it once and for all.  I've been coaching since 2008 while in legal practice (and full time since 2011). I've not only gone through umpteen coach trainings and certifications, I've gone through the dark night of the soul myself...um, more than once....

My real coaching mojo comes from my practice as an energy medicine practitioner, intuitive and hardcore empath- which helps me understand the nuances (issue spotting is my lawyer skill which comes in very handy) ... of the body, the energy body, the soul and the psyche. As for communication coaching- my mediation (not meditation -but that too) background elevates the conversation.

I'm not one for blatant self promotion in this manner, though perhaps this article will help someone who holds themselves back because they have a secret fear people will laugh them out of the gate...and in the meantime serve as a cathartic truth telling for myself.

I've worn so many hats I forget who I'm 'being' at times. I forget to be me, wholly integrated with all parts- human rights earth keeper, corporate lawyer, divorce mediator, health coach, elite athlete and peak performance coach, business coach, shaman healer- I mean yeesh, these are a lot of people to be! 

It's exhausting when I feel fragmented or unwilling to BE FULLY ME out of fear the corporate and legal environment isn't yet ready to embrace the perspective and angle I'm bringing to the table. It's needed now. There is a risk. There's always a risk when we are built for greatness. So where are you holding back to forgo the risk? What are you afraid of?

I coach my clients on this very thing. I am human. I am an expert witness on the powers of unleashing our maximum potential as the fully integrated embodiment of presence. Executive/ Leadership- coaching in general demands a holistic approach -full body, mind, soul, business, relationships, money, power, law, universal law, influence... all these portals on the table- you've got to be able to hold the space. 

When coaching someone to forge pass their comfort zone or initiate behavioral and relational changes in their business, their organizations or in their personal lives, there is often a fair amount of sediment stirred in the psyche. When trauma or some other past event has been stored for a while, a coach must be aware if a trip wire is switched. Coaching is a big responsibility. A coach must have impeccable integrity to know when they are not qualified to serve in the highest interest of their client and make proper recommendations.

Before hiring a coach/mentor- I recommend you interview your coach on their background- and be sure they're equipped to hold space for you in the intimate way that will guide your progress- NOT send you deeper into despair... Our psyches are the delivery mechanism for our Souls. And guess what- all these parts- the integrated parts- want to show up in business. That's real influence. We don't want to mess with people's Souls- we want to guide them into full expression, actualization and manifestation while benefiting all players in the hand. 

Blessings - you know where to find me for you personally, for your organization or to 'fix' a situation left by someone who didn't quite hold the space....

StephanieTrager, Esq. 
Leadership Coach, Business Strategist, Power Activator
www.stephanietrager.com  
s@stephanietrager.com

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