This message is about gratitude when you feel like you’re falling off the earth.
Falling off the earth? I felt this many times this year. Asking, “What is real?” “Where are we heading?” "How can I make a difference?" "Too much information." "I know too much what do I do?" "Do people really want to hear the truth?" “How do we create systemic change in a world that feels so chaotic?” We give more LOVE, give less stuff and be FIERCELY GRATEFUL for our awareness. WHY: FIERCE GRATITUDE MAKES YOU MORE POWERFUL. FIERCE GRATITUDE is gratitude with awareness. It’s awareness for our connection to everything on this beautiful planet - nature, people, animals, the ecosystem- and it's awareness to the suffering and the problems -even if it's uncomfortable. This is personal evolution towards empathy and our highest potential. This is how we innovate to solve those problems. FIERCE GRATITUDE says, I want to be healthier, in better shape, rid of chronic illness or pain, or happier, and I am grateful for seeing all of the ways I hinder myself from receiving this now. FIERCE GRATITUDE taps into our will to change. FIERCE GRATITUDE says, I am so grateful for all of the love in my life and I am grateful to see where I’ve pushed it away, been un-reciprocal – so that I may heal something inside and open up to give more and receive more love. Love makes you more powerful. FIERCE GRATITUDE says I’m all about social good and I see where as a consumer I can do better. I am grateful to be open to seeing how my choices impact others somewhere down the chain and how in return it could be impacting me. FIERCE GRATITUDE is about radical responsibility which builds our intuitive muscle. FIERCE GRATITUDE is being wildly open to the possibility that there is so much more happening in the invisible and humbly aligning with the best possible outcomes for you and for the world - It connects us to the universal law of abundance. FIERCE GRATITUDE is being willing to serve with what resources you have to ripple an impact in the world-even in small tiny thoughts, words or actions. This makes you a R-Evolutionary Leader. MY GRATITUDE I am FIERCELY GRATEFUL for being sensitive and empathic and FEELING the joy and sadness in the world. I’m grateful to even feel the pain because it guides me to be a FIERCE ADVOCATE for the truth. Truth is the real excellence. Truth is the new old peak performance. FIERCE GRATITUDE is all about the truth. Stephanie Trager CATALYST FUTURIST | STRATEGIC ADVISOR SPEAKER | COACH | ATTORNEY s@intentionalparadigms.com www.intentionalparadigms.com Innovation, Sustainability, R-Evolutionary Leadership
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I'm constantly puzzled by the force of influence personal development gurus command on the global stage yet few use their platform to take a stand on the big existential issues we're all grappling with today. In the past 25 years we've witnessed America transition from 'self help' to 'personal growth.' Personal development has shifted it's focus from 'victim needing help,' to 'leadership empowerment.' In the multi billion dollar personal growth industry sporting lavish conferences- that are not green or sustainable, hosting monumentally successful role models on stage and churning out offers for 5 step programs to improve your life, I think we've lost something critical. Corporate CEOs with immense fiduciary duties, are risking their reputations and taking a stand on today's politics. We're at a juncture where politics has blurred with moral obligation. More and more leaders in the 'conventional' corporate arena are taking a stand and asserting their personal values at the behest of risk and reputation. It's paying off. At the UN Global Compact Leadership Summit this week. CEO Oxfam Abby Maxman, CEO Unilever, Paul Polman, Executive Director UN Women, Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka and Anchor MSBBC Richard Lui took the stage to help us imagine a world where deeply committed courageous action from leaders wielding influence, partnerships with disruptive entrepreneurs and social impact orgs. and commitment to the next (I'd argue 7) generation instead of the next quarter as the only way forward to achieving the sustainable development goals - better business for a better world. Unfortunately, leaders in the personal development sphere, barring the likes of Marianne Williamson, Neal Donald Walsh, and a few others visible to the naked eye, are not stepping up and modeling what it means to be a responsible and congruent leader in this new day. While many personal development leaders stand out for their massive contribution to philanthropy and important causes, and ought to be celebrated for it, a major distinction is marking this moment in time. As in corporate, so in any industry (it's disappointing that the personal development industry is not leading this charge), philanthropy is no longer enough. The new standard means being willing to take a stand and risk your reputation by 'siding' with your values on issues pussing up to prominence on the American stage. It's replacing the traditional tithing to your cause and as in the corporate and finance sectors, its' civil society and economic patrons who's voice will influence this change. I've turned down workshop invitations that were merely held at a Trump hotel. I've said no to working with a highly successful and popular mentor who I learned voted for Trump. I turned down an assistant who when asked who she voted for, wouldn't answer. I've completely redirected my coaching business to focus on executives in organizations committed to sustainability and leaders with influence to support this stand taking requisite emerging today. (See The Holistic Leadership Agency here) I'm not saying I shun anyone who didn't vote my way. And I'm certainly not saying what is true for you. I'm saying when it comes to personal development, there has to be alignment. I respect different opinions and I love more than anything being given a reason to think and question the truth of my own. So give it to me. Take a stand and own it. But most of all be congruent with the teachings. It's fundamental to my teaching on holistic embodiment so you bet I"m going to walk my talk. I'm an activist first, coach second, and advocate third. Perhaps the soft skills and personal breakthroughs I coach on have nothing to do with protecting the environment though my first stand is for wild earth and indigenous sovereignty. How can we learn to speak with courage for what we believe in when the personal development leaders teaching courage aren't standing up and speaking out? If you're willing to or aren't willing to #TakeAKneel -let us know. What are you teaching personal development for? To develop an empowered collective and awaken consciousness on this planet, taking a stand while teaching personal development is the new requisite. Awakening consciousness means infusing love, equality, understanding, compassion and awareness that protecting nature, clean earth and sustainable human and natural ecosystems is part of personal evolution. Are leadership skills void of this understanding enough? No. Not anymore. It's time for this R-Evolutionary shift and incumbent upon personal development leaders, spiritual, leadership and executive coaches and the likes of influential gurus to take a stand on the issues pussing to the surface. These are the issues of personal development the collective is grappling with. Can you think of a personal development leader you listen to often who hasn't made their values prominent? Is this mixing business with personal? If megalithic global brands can do it, and we ding them if they don't-- Do you agree it's time for the personal development world to embed responsibility in their thinking? This new brand of responsibility is moving past the CSR (corporate social responsibility) department and into the C-Suite. We already know it's profitable. PDR or PDSR = Personal Development Responsibility or Personal Development Social Responsibility (respectively) means taking a stand as a personal development professional and demanding your gurus do the same. Make truth telling sexy. Influence taking a stand for what you believe in. Trust this is the new economic paradigm and you will win...and ideally our world will transform. Thank you for hearing... I'm opening the calendar these next few weeks to connect with you all and anyone wanting to make this shift in their business, their company, or their platform to embody their values and take a stand. Jump on board with the new economic paradigm and leverage this opportunity to make a difference. Connect with me here, and we'll calendar a call- It's an insights opportunity to gain clarity on what and how you can use your influence to create a powerful legacy impact. You'll be hearing from me or a member of the team shortly. Thank you thank you! Intentionally, Stephanie Stephanie Trager, Esq., Holistic Leadership Coach, Strategic Consultant, Trusted Advisor s@stephanietrager.com www.stephanietrager.com Founder, CEO The Holistic Leadership Agency www.theholisticleadershipagency.com There is No Limit to Our Potential! My friends, we're at a serious cross roads in the world. What we do is either adding to a problem, solving it or in the blurry middle. If you're like me, you're more motivated than ever to be part of a solution instead of somewhere in the blurry middle. I'd like to ask you to take a hard look at what work you're doing in the world - and whether you're solving a problem, creating one or somewhere in the blurry middle. Truth is, most people are somewhere in the middle. And what can we do about it? Our society, the market and our economy are built on that blurry in the middle. Technology that solves a problem - ie. clean energy, can actually be causing a problem somewhere else - and usually is. Mining the stuff that creates our technology is a problem for indigenous and rural communities all over the world. Without mining, cobalt, tantalum, tin, copper, tungston...and all the minerals in our cell phones, servers, devices and cars would not be possible. Or would it? Could it?
We know on some psychic unconscious level that our comforts often come at the expense of someone else's pain. We may not know it consciously but the world is connected. We are all part of this cosmic rock and we're all connected. Somewhere in the psyche lives a knowing. And what can we do about it? What are we willing to do about a failing Democracy and justice system? What are we willing to do about the issues we hold dear? How far are we willing to go to ask ourselves where we're complicit? My firm has been working with companies to help them align their corporate social responsibility programs and sustainability missions to focus on solving problems their industry causes. Many companies (you've heard of) are a few steps removed from that first leg of the supply chain that displaces rural and often indigenous people by means of corruption. Those minerals and raw materials in our stuff are often sourced in ways that leave disproportionate scars on communities of color or indigenous people. The key to coming into alignment ourselves so we can then bring our business and companies into alignment is to be willing to ask some very hard questions. We have to be willing to take responsibility. We look at what IS happening in Charlottesville, Virginia. The craziness. What's the value of a life? What's the value of a life in the United States? A White life, a Black life, an Asian life, a Latino life, a Jewish life, a Muslim life... and all lives? What's the value of a Native American's life or Congolese child's life in the mines of Kivo? Where are the mines? Where are the factories? Where are the pipelines? As a result of the events in Charlottesville and the President's response at least 3 CEOs of major corporations stepped down from the Presidential Council to take a stand for what crossed their personal line as 'not ok.' Sure they did it as a statement to their company yet there is a moment where you feel in your gut, the line has been crossed. And you act. You don't. Or you stay in the blurry middle. EVERYONE needs to know their line and admit to themselves whether they are part of the problem, solution or the blurry middle. Why am I sharing this? Because we as conscious professionals witnessing a world that's going nuts, are participating in the problem. We ALL are if we are on this grid, on our device reading this, or shopping on Amazon. We are all part of the problem and the GOOD NEWS is we are ALL PART OF THE SOLUTION. We are in need of some INNOVATIVE GAME CHANGING SOLUTIONS. Sean King's words hit home, "We are witnessing a dip in the quality of humanity."There's the reality we see in the physical and there is a whole other layer in the invisible that's energetic and it's having an impact. It's so intense, it leads to cognitive dissonance. How are we supposed to go about our lives and thrive while feeling the level of empathy needed to neutralize the dark forces that are unleashed? Light workers are working double time to live, thrive, grieve and unleash more light to neutralize that dark force. How can we all be part of the solution if we're not embodying our inner Yoda? Taking a deep hard look within and ask some BIG questions. How can we each align our values to our purchasing decisions, educate ourselves on the impact of our lifestyles, look for innovative options and solutions, and focus our business on what we really care most about? I help organizations, thought leaders and influencers be the game changing compass to lead the consciousness revolution being called forth in every silo of our existence right now. How can a giant megalith of a company with thousands of tentacles all over this Earth align with a solution to environmental and social harm -not just mitigate problems but truly solve them? That's where Intentional Paradigms comes in. How can a thought leader create a legacy impact, an entrepreneur create inner and outer alignment that let's them be a solution and fulfill their mission or a leader influence their team to be the change that infiltrates a company's culture? These are the questions we need to be asking. It's all about asking the right questions and being WILLING to lead the change. These are serious times, reach out and let's play with some mega solutions for you or your organization! As we evolve the world evolves. Stephanie Trager, Esq., Leadership Coaching & Consulting | CSR, ESG & Sustainability Strategist | Talent Engagement & Retention | Expeditions | Personal Evolution s@stephanietrager.com www.stephanietrager.com www.intentionalparadigms.com Founder Trager, Law PLLC www.tragerlaw.net There is No Limit to Your Potential! PS. I had the honor of moderating this panel for the American Bar Association's Section of Civil Rights & Social Justice: From Standing Rock to Flint: Water Rights Race & Resistance As Vice Chair of the Environmental Justice Committee for the American Bar Association I'm often seen bringing voices of truth to the table. This was one of those times. The speakers here are super powerful and shared front line important perspectives. Keith Harper, Ambassador to UN Human Rights Counsel and citizen of the Cherokee Nation of Oklahoma, Jodi Gillette, Policy Advisor to Obama and member of the Standing Rock Tribe, Julie Hurwitz, co-lead counsel for the Flint Class Action and Daniel Sheehan long time civil rights attorney (my hero) and lead counsel for the Lakota People's Law Project. Highly recommend viewing if of interest to you. The link here to catch the replay- via twitter, until it's put on on the ABA website- direct link here - or via my twitter page *Now if you've been in my community for a while you have seen my evolution and truth is, this is where I began. There is no greater feeling than the moment you realize you're combining ALL OF WHO YOU ARE. This is how we can fully be of service in the world. BE unapologetically ALL OF WHO YOU ARE! Our power comes from connection. Our power comes from connection. It serves us immensely to recognize and understand how we relate to the energy of connection -or lack thereof in our experience. CONNECTION is the key to resolve all our personal and planetary woes. In the video above i share how we can unlock our power to CONNECT EVEN MORE POWERFULLY and why we benefit. How do we connect? First we need to recognize where we're disconnected, what it's causing and the circumstances manifested as a result. Then we need to look at what we're connecting to instead. We're always focusing our energy on something. If we're feeling stress and worry, we're connecting to that feeling of stress and worry, the problem, and our inability to solve it instead of our resourcefulness, possibilities and potential solutions. In the video I share about why it's so important to tune into your relationship with connection and how we all benefit. Our journeys expand and contract with respect to our ability to connect, with respect to our past wounding around connection and with respect to our childhood experience with connection and bonding. Our personal (and collective) history with 'connection' creates powerful imprints on our subconscious mind and our body memory around how we experience connection, lack of connection or an ability to dissociate from healthy connection.
Connection is an ancient currency that signals to
highly sensitive beings you are mindful, aware and safe. When you go to pick up a baby, do you pause and ask -verbally or energetically- if you may touch or pick him or her up? If you don't do this with animals, they'll often get quite upset! When you tap into the frequency of connection and meet a baby or animal (not your pet) there---they know you're aware, safe, mindful and just plain 'cool'! It's part of that magic spell highly spiritual leaders emanate when you're in their presence. Deepening our relationship with the power of connection unlocks intuition, unleashes our most powerful presence, and deepens our inner knowing of who we really are, how we relate to the world and how the world relates to us. Most people aren't walking around thinking they're disconnected yet a majority of people are. How else can a highly civilized society rationalize using products with parts and things that were sourced from places where people either were killed, had to move off their land or suffer other human rights abuse? How do we as an 'advanced society' dissociate from these facts in our psyche? I invite anyone to challenge the latter statement. Maybe we didn't know these facts. Maybe we heard but didn't CONNECT the dots. Maybe we know yet dissociate and disconnect. Being connected means you're aware of everything in your surroundings. How you manipulate this energy determines your influence. I call it 'the skateboard of personal evolution.' If you're on the ride watch the video above and I'd love to hear if you connect to this message and which part most resonates. Thanks in advance! Let's connect in the comments below. Our power comes from connection. Intentionally,
Stephanie Trager, esq.
Medicine Woman Leadership, Life and Business Coach Strategic Consultant / Attorney s@stephanietrager.com / www.stephanietrager.com There's NO Limit to Your Potential! Request a Coaching Session Here
Can you imagine in front of your eyes seeing a human become a jaguar or a snake? A metamorphosis of human flesh into another animal or being?
THAT'S CALLED INFLUENCE! What do you really really desire and want now? SHAPESHIFT and create it! Below I share: The First 5 Steps to Mastering the Unkown Unkown - which is the foundation for Shapeshifting. Many native cultures I've connected with have shared stories about this ability and the traditions of their maestros -master medicine teachers. It's common among most indigenous populations across the globe. I've seen it and believe it. In the western or 'modern' world we choose a linear perceptual paradigm instead of choosing to access the plethora of options always happening in the invisible. What does this have to do with you? **** Read this Part Carefully**** You want something right now? You're feeling a desire. If you could stealthily shapeshift- and become someone else or something else (in the natural world) what would it be that would help you achieve or create what you want? SHAPESHIFTING is a master's skill. To master anything we have to start somewhere. First 5 Steps to Master the Unknown Unkown So You Can ShapeShift are: 1. Hone your awareness However aware and awake you are now - imagine turning up the volume 100x. Think about how sensitive you are to noise, smells, energy, other people's energy, nuances in other people's body language, knowing yourself and how you are being perceived, aware of how you influence your outcomes in all areas of your life..... Tune in and reflect on how you want to be more aware and what it can do for you. So however strong and aware you are- I mean even if you have full on X-Ray vision, imagine turning that up 100x! Some suggestions for you-- spend more time alone in nature and just listen and tune in to your surroundings. Meditate early in the morning and connect with your version of Spirit and your higher self. Practice 'reading' energy when you walk in a room or meet someone new. 2. Strengthen your intuitive muscle All of the above will work to strengthen your intuitive muscle. We're all way more intuitive that we realize. Knowledge can sometimes be confused as intuition. My sister's a pediatrician. She's been top notch for 30 years at her craft. She's highly intuitive. And she's highly knowledgeable. She doesn't always believe she's as intuitive as I know she is, because she believes her knowledge is front and center. So where are you really knowledgeable about something yet your intuition is what kicks in to help you make decisions? That 'gut' knowing is one part. The other is learning how to think and discern intuitively. This is where you want to focus.... trusting your intuition even more. 3. Practice seeing in the dark I mean this literally. Walk outside with no lights- no flashlight and no street lights. If it means make your way to the woods at night -that's what i'm talking about. Practice walking in nature in the dark. Practice walking in your home in the dark. You'll be shocked that you can 'see.'' 4. Deep dive and uncover your limiting beliefs If you don't believe in shapeshifting - or that there is actually another possible reality happening right next to you in the invisible, then you won't be able to see it or do it. When you uncover your limiting beliefs about how the world and spirit world work, - even if you say, "I know but..." be willing to do a deeper dive and uncover a new layer of spirituality that will help you access even more of your personal power. Our left analytical linear brains want to keep us in check. So if you find yourself practicing awareness, honing your intuition or walking in the dark and you experience fear, doubt or worry on any level, just know it's a voice that is trying to protect you based on some belief that may not be true. The deep dive allows you to 'see' what beliefs create your current paradigm. The beliefs that create a paradigm where people shapeshift - are a different ball of wax. 5. Strengthen your connection with wild nature And finally, strengthening your connection with nature is your golden key. Nature, the Earth and all of her creatures and parts have consciousness. When you sit and listen to the stones, the trees, the soil, and all of the magical life giving forces upon which we live, you open a new channel of understanding about 'how' the natural world works. You are nature as well. We're racing to become technology over nature as a human species. To maintain your true power--the power of who you really are-- connect more with the natural world and you will remember you are nature too. I'd love to hear how these steps work for you! Please reply and share share whatever you feel called to share .... Many blessings! Intentionally,
Stephanie Trager, esq.
Holistic Leadership Coach, Business Strategist Consultant, Attorney, Medicine Woman s@stephanietrager.com www.stephanietrager.com Request a Coaching Session Here ~ There is No Limit to Your Potential!
Voicing Perplexity -We've entered the age of 'sustainability' as far as the corporate wold is concerned.
Corporate Social Responsibility was once the domain of marketing linked with Corporate giving. Mitigation meant doing good- even if it meant building a park in Michigan to mitigate an oil spill in the Amazon. Now volunteering employees highlight feel good 'Social Impact Reports' (no longer called CSR reports) and the word 'Sustainable' takes on the same challenge as the word 'Integrity' - it's a sliding scale. The UN Sustainability Goals are setting moral precedent and companies who align their corporate sustainability strategies with said goals, get a place at the table with other 'corporate do gooders.' Frankly, it's not enough. "At Monsanto, that makes our mission simple: Provide tools for farmers to help nourish the growing global population and help preserve the Earth for all who share it – people, plants, wildlife and communities." Hugh Grant, CEO Monsanto excerpted from their 2016 Sustainability Report {here} What sustainability means to Monsanto, is not what Sustainability means to more than 3/4 of the rest of the world. If you're Monsanto ( they truly believe their mission is sustainable) you may think the science of modifying nature's DNA to produce more is actually good and sustainable. If you're an organic (real organic) farmer and the 'terminator seed' killed your heirloom seed stock from pollen blowing over the fence on the land owned by Monsanto, you may think differently. If you're one of 38 countries that have banned Genetically Modified Foods (GMOs), you hardly believe Monsanto in their mission to "preserve the earth." If you're one of many countries that have banned glyphosate (an ingredient in Monsanto's Round Up and many processed foods on supermarket shelves) to control weeds, you realize the health dangers of this chemical and hardly consider it a product of a company committed to natural and sustainable eco-systems. The World Health Organization cautiously and well lobbied, labeled glyphosate, "probably carcinogenic to humans." So a problem I see that I'm honored to contribute to solving is how to help (leaders/people in) companies who 'want' to play the 'sustainability' card to truly live up to that responsibility from the inside out. "CSOs are futurists, connectors, innovators, revenue generators and yes, also advocates." Aron Cramer {Greenbiz Blog} It's something to celebrate that corporations are evolving in the advent of the Corporate Sustainability Officer. A superb CSO will build a team that gets things done to meet benchmarks and lead the company to meet it's sustainability goals. The bottleneck in large corporations that didn't start out with a sustainable bent includes the rest of your people who didn't necessarily start at your company as an environmentalist and are not holistically minded. What about that gaping opportunity to be in total alignment with your sustainability promise from inside out? "Companies usually focus on the "last mile" of the manufacturing process, in which items are shipped and sold to the customer. But the "first mile" — where materials for clothing are grown, collected and sourced — is a supply chain that encompasses millions of people whose well-being is largely ignored." Ian Rosenberger, Founder of Thread helping companies like Timberland 'walk' their talk. Sustainable initiatives depending on the corporate sector, need scientists, engineers, sustainability experts, strategists, industry experts, policy experts, innovators, lawyers, ECOLOGISTS, and HOLISTIC experts who not only create change from the level of benchmark measurables - ie. emissions reduction, circular economies, and slashing corporate waste, yet also experts to guide the human transformation of their people to align with and embody what it means to 'be sustainable.' Senior leaders as well as managers all the way through ought to align and embody sustainability for the ROI to multiply in terms of employee engagement, alignment with your message, and... Patagonia - our North Star- says it best... "Integrate innovative sustainability thinking, values and goals into every employee” by making sustainability the responsibility of every member of staff in every department of the business. By freeing corporate social responsibility from the confines of the CSR & sustainability department, Patagonia gets every employee involved in reducing the environmental footprint of the company." Rick Ridgeway, VP Environmental Affairs, Patagonia, {Excerpted from CSRCentral.com} Corporate leaders and their people are consumers too. Pioneering exceptional stewardship requires leaders go the extra mile. In this time of uncertainty it's the transformation of PEOPLE that will change the game. I'm Stephanie Trager, CEO of Intentional Paradigms, a coaching and consulting firm dedicated to supporting the success of organizational leaders and the transformational experts that serve them who are committed to sustainability and ethical business. We help your people transform so your company can lead the Sustainability R-evolution.
Stephanie Trager, esq.
Intentional Paradigms Coaching & Consulting Leadership Coach, Business Strategist, Energy Medicine Healer, Consultant, Attorney s@stephanietrager.com www.stephanietrager.com
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It is time to be even BOLDER.
Keep asking "Where am I needed, show me how I can serve." The right people and opportunities WILL show up.
There is a big black elephant in the room for many of us in the -- the divisive blow we are feeling from the election. What I'm about to share is not political, it's not a right or left conversation, it's not partisan.
It's human coming from a deeply connected spiritual place with concerns for the inner peace of our neighbors and the longevity of clean water and a healthy living environment. I’m receiving questions on how to make sense of life now, business and what once mattered in my career? What now!?
What’s my purpose and who am I?
When we break down who we really are, without politics, without agendas, we are nature. Yes humans stripped of their clothes and opinions, are nature. Those most keyed into this are feeling an innate call to action to protect what is sacred.
In 20 minutes I felt every range of emotion from anger to sadness to grief to confusion. It was a perfect time to be away and objectively disengaged from the conversation.
I spent days in solitude pondering the question, "What now?" “Who am I?” “What’s my purpose?” You may be pondering these same questions even more now than ever.
When we speak to loved ones or others with a different view we see how ready everyone is to defend their position. The truth is our beliefs right now are so anchored in rhetoric it's hard to align with folks supporting 'the other.'
What's really going on?
What's really going on is the collective opportunity for a MASSIVE BREAKTHROUGH.
Think about your own life, when something traumatic happens that jacks up your emotions. We either surf on top and put a bandaid on it or we go through the journey and work deeply for the breakthrough. These times we know aren't easy. We're all in this together now going through a collective challenge with a huge opportunity for a breakthrough.
It's always the most turbulent before the real breakthrough. The shadows of our sub-conscious erupt into view and we see what's been beneath the surface. We see what REALLY needs healing and clearing before true sustainable change can take place. This is happening for us all right now - collectively.
The question for each of us is, "What is the breakthrough? What's the outcome we want?"
The opportunity is to stay out of rage and reaction and stay in a place of harmony, love, compassion and consciousness. I admit I've been working through this one myself. The outcome I want is a huge awakening in consciousness in government, C-Suites, and among the population -us.
I desire to see the water protectors and Native North Americans at Standing Rock- holding space for something so basic- clean water for all, clean air and a clean environment - to be heard for what this is and the pipeline stopped permanently now.
I desire to see inclusion and human rights and the right to a clean environment as a true compass for each individual and corporate citizen on this planet including whoever leads this country- the USA. These seem so basic right?
We must be asking the question, "How can I contribute even more to the outcome I say I want?" Personal responsibility is leadership. It starts inside each one of us. It empowers us.
Authentic leadership in the corporate space begins with personal evolution and aligns with your values and personal responsibility.
May this message serve you in some way to UNLEASH THE REAL YOU EVEN MORE NOW TO BE EVEN BOLDER as YOU TAKE A STAND FOR WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN.
Let this give you a place in which to ground and a place to return to when you’re feeling uncertain. Let this catapult you forward from a place of LOVE and KINDNESS and COMPASSION.
What’s my purpose?
When we spend energy seeking the perfect messaging to capsulize our purpose as individuals here on Earth, in this lifetime, we distract ourselves from being it.
What I love to do and how I love to do it changes often. Some live decades doing the same thing and truly becoming an expert in that one thing. Others change and flow. Both are right. Both have meaning and purpose. Now, in the US, our world is uncertain. Many are asking, “What can I do? What should I do?”
Know that thing that soothes you and brings you back to center. Your purpose is to do that often. What is calling you to actualize your talent in a meaningful way right now? Are you feeling called to have your voice heard? Do you have a business? Is their a way to channel your voice through your business? Do you work with a company? Is there a way to hold space at work for others feeling how you feel? What is calling you now? Instead of seeing purpose as an overall question, ask this instead....
"What's my purpose today?"
Don’t over complicate purpose. Happiness, joy and inner peace are purpose. When we’re so busy doing what we need to do that we don't have time to ask this question, we are being on purpose. The key is to make sure you come back to center, recharge and continue to do your own inner work to raise your own consciousness.
"We must dream the world we wish to see into being and take action to help it unfold."
1. Pick your issue, become an expert and take action. Start now. The idea here is, engagement and your bold voice. My call for all of you is to UNLEASH THE REAL YOU. Tap into what you know is right and speak up with your voice and actions in every area of your life to hold those values. Be willing to take inventory and ask, how am I contributing to the negativity? How am I complicit with the things I say I care most about? Am I invested in companies supporting things I don't agree with?
There is no time for the cognitive dissonance of the past decade.
The world we live in has changed. The rules of engagement have changed. No one is coming to rescue us. We are all being called to take full responsibility. If this means focusing on your own personal development right now, then do that. We must realize our own contribution ENERGETICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, and PHYSICALLY. We must nurture ourselves and make time for personal development.
If it means being a voice in your community, in community politics, or on a certain issue your expertise can impact, keep asking questions on where or how you can get involved. AND ask spiritually for guidance on how you can best serve.
2. This is the crux of 'What now?' We all must raise our own vibration and HOLD IT for others in order to transform this collective energy we're feeling right now. Lots of fear and anger, lots of confusion and 'how the heck can this be true?'.
The real collective breakthrough is HIGHER CONSCIOUSNESS. ANYONE coming from a higher state of consciousness would value every human being the same and would value a clean and healthy environment above all else AND realize prosperity and abundance CAN COME as a result of honoring these BASIC TENETS.
I welcome your comments below. Let's forge a conversation of inclusion and openness and truly hold space for each-other with compassion.
Please know I am here to support. I am offering Breakthrough Coaching Sessions at a very reduced rate to hold space for you - my community because a breakthrough truly changes EVERYTHING. You do need to be heard. Empowerment, strategy and a different lens can change everything!
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1. Mental-Intellectual Overdrive
When your mind feels like mush and the wires are crossed, your brain feels like a computer crash and you’re unable to articulate the tactical plan to move ahead, it's time to pause. Be with the pause and make it an intentional breakthrough in one of your other quadrants.
Something else wants your attention and it likely involves self-care. Trust your mind is looking out for you and on purpose.
The more we freak out in this state, the more we chase our tail in a cycle of disempowerment. The big opportunity is to say, "what other quadrant has a breakthrough in store for me now?"
2. Emotional Need
What part of you is calling for love?
What part needs to be heard?
What part needs to be felt?
When we try to bypass emotions coming up when we're in the circle of stuck, we'll likely have to repeat the whole spiral to experience the real breakthrough. Remember-stuck is happening on purpose.
In other words, you’re here in stuck for a reason.
Nothing is wrong with you.
It’s just a thing. Like being in flow is a thing. Being stuck has a purpose- if you use it!
In other words, dive into the feelings, ask the right questions and experience the ah-has that lead to the breakthrough. This is called personal evolution.
What do you need? Maybe it's time for some self-care? What does that mean for you?
If you aren't sure, it's a great place to be because you now have time to define what self care means for you!
3. Creative Inspiration
Sometimes stuck is so amazingly on purpose.
You’re entire system shuts down and you feel held back.
You are.
A part of your higher self is holding you back.
It could be out of fear.
It could be out of lazy.
It could be both or none.
Whatever it is, it’s an opportunity just like any other state of being- it’s how you choose to use it. Sometimes there is a piece of insight that wants to come to you. A creative piece of information that can’t make it’s way in if you’re always busy, always focused, and always controlling your mind.
When you surrender and let go, you may experience a dream, a thought, a wow in mediation, an idea that could only come in that ‘other’ state.
Without that new piece of information that may not even have come from you- it could come from a conversation you just had and all of a sudden everything you thought was happening is now totally different because of this one piece of information- so without that piece of information, you couldn't possibly know what you're next step was because you're now in a totally different direction and this is the right one! (Tip: Surrender!)
And once you have that awareness, ah ha, or information you realize it had to come through stuck and all is well.
The key is to remember while in stuck, this quadrant is working it’s way out and you just need to surrender instead of feeling resistance, and victim poor me or blah. Don’t worry! It’s coming. Hang on, just release and surrender and be where you are. It’s shifting in the invisible.
4. Energy/ Spiritual Evolution
Spiritual Evolution is in process and you’re squeezing through the canal. Be patient and hang out with it!
Evolution happens for us all in strange ways. There is a saying by indigenous people about the ‘civilized’ nations. “You people all wear clocks on your wrist yet you complain you have no time.”
They have a better way of viewing time. It’s less linear than our clock or other measures.
When in stuck remember to lean into this Spirit Quadrant and know, if there were no time, you’re right where you need to be to quiet your mind, emotions, thoughts and actions and just hang out with your Soul. It's doing a necessary recharge, upgrade and download from the cosmos and if you quiet your mind and sit with your Soul, you may just experience a miracle.
You are moving forward when you realize stuck has a purpose. Use it intentionally.
The movement is happening in the invisible. Trust you will feel it, know it, and you will be the change soon. Learn how to surrender, listen and discern. You'll know when to act. Your brain will be back online soon.
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You are more intuitive than you think.
Ready to work that muscle?
Are you using all of your perceptive power? It's not likely. Most people are only using a fraction of their brain, a fraction of their physical power, and a tiny tiny fraction of their perceptive power.
What is perceptive power? We perceive from various places depending on the situation. We perceive facts. We perceive through emotion. We perceive through the place of the mythic and the soul- the invisible unseen world. And we perceive from the great place of oneness- or Spirit.
You can say, some of us are intuitive and others aren't. I say it's just a muscle and one way to increase your intuitive powers is to increase your muscle of non-linear perception.
Most people are only on the first two channels perceiving from the factual or emotional.
These places are linear. We have been trained to see facts in a linear way. We have been trained to tie emotions to a cause and often misinterpret the cause since emotions really are not that linear at all!
Non linear perception allows us to see what is invisible to other people. It allows us to connect dots of a cause that seem completely unrelated and realize how they are all happening for us -for us to learn, to answer a question, solve a problem and to personally evolve.
When we perceive in a non-linear way- we come from the mythic...the place of the Soul. The soul is in this body for the purpose of evolution.
When we actualize our gifts and talents we are contributing to our Soul's EVOLUTION.
When we piece the puzzle of life together using more of our non linear powers of perception, we unleash even more of our gifts and talents- this is true for the wildestly brilliant mathematician as well as the ballerina, the drummer and the corporate leader.
A great example of non- linear perception is in the medical field. An intuitive healer uses this power of non-linear perception when they see a health issue from a holistic view -where all parts of the body work together. In the medical world a diagnosis is often linear, it's evidenced based, but for this situation, that wouldn't be happening.
There is always a circumstance traced linearly to a cause...even in the most non-linear of circumstances. This is why so many doctors will say they can't figure out why something is happening when it doesn't match the text book definition.
Health is related to our emotions and even our spirit yet it definitely takes a non linear diagnosis to tie these together. Can you point to something in your life or a problem in your business or work calling for you to perceive why or how this is happening for you in a non-linear way?
I invite you to apply these three tips to increase your powers of non-linear perception:
3 Tips to Increase Your Intuitive Power by Increasing Your Powers of Non-Linear Perception:
1. Sit everyday for a few minutes in total quiet and calm. Ask your higher self to show you a sign today- a sign of your next best step. Be intentional and focused about it. Then use this new lens of perception to look and see signs that show up for you.
2. Observe someone telling you a story and just notice how linear it all sounds. This step is to start being aware of how linear most people perceive byhow they explain situations and stories. By observing this you have a set point, and start to notice when you're also operating in that linear place.
3. By observing your default from that linear place, start to play with potential non-linear explanations as well. Look at all the facts of a story or situation and the larger question you asked and see how the situation happened for you, to show you, teach, you or guide you to something.
Example: This happens for me a lot. I turn my car around and go home because I forgot something important. I am initially frustrated. I run in the house, look where I know it is, and poof right in front of me is something else I lost 2 months ago that I was looking for and asked 'Spirit' to help me find. I had overlooked it time and time again and this act of forgetting something else that caused me to run back and find what I lost 2 months ago is non-linear.
How I perceive this is- My higher self had me purposefully forget this thing so I would turn around and come back and find that other thing. It can be seen as linear. If you perceive it as linear than you're already using your non linear powers. Many people would think I'm crazy, it's 'just a coincidence.'
Yeah, so what's a coincidence?
Did this help you? Share or ask questions below and let's all become more powerful perceivers and unlock even more of our potential!
Intentionally,
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Are you deciding how you can move forward or why you can't?
I was at a phenomenal conference this week and this slide came up on the screen. I paused and thought deeply about a decision I was feeling stuck on and questioned where I fit on the scale of decision making speed.
Napolean Hill - Think and Grow Rich
This brought up 3 questions I asked myself and thought it would be a great tool for making decisions to check in with these 3 questions. So I share them with you now and before I do, I ask you to bring to mind one decision you're making right now.
If you're not making any decisions than you're not likely growing. And since I attract growth minded folks here, I'm going to challenge you to find a decision and write it down. It could be whether to buy something or change something, let go of something, or pursue a different direction. It could be big or small. What's a decision you've been chewing on for a minute?
1. Are you coming from a growth mindset?
A growth mindset is one that sees possibility. A growth mindset sees forward and what may be gained where a fixed mindset sees what it will lose. A growth mindset sees problems as opportunities and looks for solutions. A growth mindset sees failure as a pebble on the path forward, not a reason to stop and throw in the towel.
Making decisions from a growth mindset, we ask questions that unleash possibility. We may still balance risk though we ultimately decide based on how to make it work instead of why it can't.
2. Are you coming from a fixed mindset?
A fixed mindset is limited. It comes from a lack point of view and when in this mindset people make decisions based on how much they'll lose or how much less they will have vs. how much more is possible. A fixed mindset as defined in Carol Dweck's book "Mindset," is one which sees flaws and problems instead of beauty and opportunity. The book is way more detailed and an encouraged read.
A fixed mindset sees problems as reasons to stop or give up. You can have a growth mindset and make decisions from a fixed mindset sometimes. This is a continuum, a spectrum and is not 'fixed' necessarily all of the time.
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3. Are you changing a decision or making a new decision?
Making quick decisions is a universal trait among super successful and wealthy individuals. On the same token these folks take longer to change a decision. In Napolean Hill's, "Think and Grow Rich," his studies show that those who don't get far in executing their life dream are very slow at making decisions and quick to change a decision.
Sometimes it seems as though we're making a slow decision yet really we are slowly changing a decision we already made. The power here -which successful people master -is DISCERNMENT.
The take away here is to know yourself and fine tune your decision making process. Whether you're fixed or growth, can change. It takes a DECISION to change. When we uncover where we are on the spectrum of fixed or growth, and decide to grow, it then takes practice.
Mindset truly is a journey of self-mastery. And any journey of mastery requires commitment, focus, dedication and discipline. What are you deciding today and how are you deciding it?
Was this useful? I'd love to hear your comments... What is one thing you can do today to empower a growth mindset?
Best of the Best to you!
With Intention,
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The Journey of Increase™
A mind mastery journey to increase your powers of influence, mental focus and manifestation so you can have more of what you want ON PURPOSE!
Imagine out there somewhere invisible is a universal bank of well, everything. ideas, money, love, anger, wellness, illness.....
Our job is to tap into the central operating system of universal intelligence and set the commands to deliver and activate within us, that which we desire.
Imagine there is a two way operating line.
One line sends signals from you to the universal intelligence station... on what you want and are ready, willing and able to reveive.
The other line comes from the universal bank or intelligence. It gives you ideas, ability, information, healing, codes to upgrade your operating system, abundance channels, opportunities.... and it gives you illness, lack, challenges and struggle if that's the program or input you are giving it.
This central intelligence, or universal bank is not only taking commands from your conscious mind.
It takes commands from your subconscious mind (unconscious self) and embedded psyche as well as your energy field and imprints stored there.
How do other people think of our brilliant ideas?
Ideas come to you and go back to that intelligence bank if they are important enough to be actualized on the current world stage. You are entrusted with genius for a sheer moment or more- precisely because you have the capacity to achieve and actualize the full potential of your idea. So do others.
The question is, will you act on it?
Do you have the confidence, influence, personal discipline, faith in yourself, faith in the idea --this is really faith in God- or some other force that be OUTSIDE of yourself. Do you have the level of mental focus and enthusiasm to deliver the idea to the world? It could be that you just give the idea to someone who does.
Many of us have these brilliant ideas and sit on them because 'they're ours.' The reason why masterminds, think tanks and other institutions hire people with great ideas, is to link those ideas to the resources required to actualize them.
THE WORLD NEEDS ALL HANDS ON DECK. Right Now.
Just take one step and inch in closer. What would that first step be? What holds you back?
If you're like many super smart people I know, you are constantly soaking up information, strategies, 'HOW TO's' and on and on. The BEST STRATEGIES do not work without the influence to go with them.
When the same strategies that work for some aren't working for you, it's good to pause and reflect on what subconscious commands are beaming out to the Infinite Intelligence.
When you are aware of what's going on in the invisible realms of your mind, you have more power, more influence and more focus to manifest what you really want.
Here's a useful tool you can use over and over when you need an instant upgrade to your personal power and want to show up with empowered presence. This tool may help you inch forward, take that next uncomfortable step and actualize your brilliant ideas. One step at a time!
We’re always influencing ourselves and our outcomes and I've created this free tool for you to completely flip your paradigm, increase your confidence, ooze inner power and exude magnetic attraction all when you You Need a Boost Before:
- Negotiations
- Sales Conversations
- Business Meetings
- Networking Events
- Presentations
- Pitches
- Anytime you need to be in your power and win
Use this cheat sheet and tell me how it works for you! Remember, increasing your power is a practice and with practice we improve and increase!
Be TRUE to You!
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How to Get It
It's showing up collectively as environmental disaster, political WTF, genocides of cultures (yeah, happening now), continued gender inequality, and you catch my drift.
What's your cause? What problem are you passionate about solving?
What's your purpose here in this lifetime- now?
We're individually being called to wake up even more and align with our individual sense of purpose.
Anything else just isn't going to work and will continue to show up as struggle. Something may be tugging at you this very moment to capture your attention, "Hey Me, it's time to step up now, get to to the bottom of this, and shine your light. The world needs you now!"
Is it showing up for you individually as:
- Decreased sales?
- Relationship turmoil?
- Mushy boundaries that lead to frustration and resentment?
- Feeling stuck as an employee when you are meant to be running the show?
- Deep financial crisis?
- Feeling stuck around claiming your real value and worth?
- Secret self loathing and blame?
- Blame of others and targeting frustrations outside of yourself?
Are you feeling like you're at the end of your rope and ready for a serious personal upgrade to your operating system? You can have the best strategy on the planet - a business genius feeding you the steps, a health or fitness guru mapping your plan, a financial wizard working your books, and still feel like it's all falling through the cracks.
The ONE INGREDIENT to seal those cracks and catapult any strategy to success is INFLUENCE.
When you improve HOW you speak to others, HOW you convey your message, (not just what your message is- so entrepreneurs listen up- you can have a fabulous marketing message worth didly if you don't have influence in HOW you deliver it) and HOW you hold space energetically in professional settings.
Every moment you are influencing your outcomes.
Influence is the capacity to have an impact or effect on something or someone that causes something-
THREE WAYS TO EMPOWER YOUR
INFLUENCE -ON PURPOSE:
1. Show up with certainty and confidence in your value, your offering, your idea, or intelligence, your ability, your conviction, and be committed to your desired outcomes no matter what.
If you're not 100% on all of the above, it's worth investing in this area of growth first- finding your passion, connecting to a sense of purpose, empowering your self-worth and value, and strengthening your desire to become who you secretly wish to be... You can start with books, home study programs, private support- coaching, spiritual support, therapy, finding a mentor, -objective support is often best.
2. Have an objective person give feedback on your copy, your writing, marketing and conversation skills- (and emails) including sales conversations if you're in business for yourself. You could be leaving real money, big opportunities, and real service to others on the table by not leveraging your ability to convey your message, ask for help, or maximize windfall opportunities to position your offerings / ideas in ways that truly benefit your market/ clients/ constituents- and YOURSELF.
I see so much extraordinary talent as a gift in my line of work. It's an honor to be among potential giants. Giants are born of influence. The more we grow our muscle of influence- and it is an innate power we all have which can be built like a muscle- the more we unleash our true potential and move into Gianthood.
3. Have an objective person give feedback on your subconscious looping. What is subconscious looping? I use this phrase to denote how we speak, how we show up (presence) and how we think, write and act to satisfy and feed the subconscious program or belief system even when it doesn't match what we say we want on the outside.
We're often influencing ourselves in subtle and not so subtle ways without even knowing it. This is where we take ourselves out and given the BEST STRATEGY EVER for landing the BIGGEST BEST CLIENTS- BUSINESS ACCOUNTS-- PARTNERS---SUPPORT--whatever you want- if you're influencing yourself without even knowing it you could be taking yourself out at the gate.
Let's say you're a business owner with a service or product and we design a business model with a clear strategy to gross $250,000 extra in sales this year. Then we clarify your niche/target market and we create stellar marketing copy- a powerful message (elevator pitch) and you begin fleshing out new ways to position yourself and offer your expertise.
Next we create a well of opportunity to tap into with specific steps to take and benchmarks calendared for the first 3-5 months. It's clear and you're clear on what needs to be done and what actions need to be taken. Then, 'the rubber meets the road.'
What happens if any of the above 3 areas are not in good stead?
The stellar strategy will melt. It will sit on the shelf and you may blame the market, your spouse, your dog, or your couch. The best strategy in this situation is to DECIDE and COMMIT to improving your POWERS OF CONSCIOUS INFLUENCE.
What's required to improve your influence? Influence is an inner game first. It's a commitment to personal growth, transformation and evolution so you can truly actualize your gifts and talent and show up as the true and full you -meant for GIANTHOOD.
***Stay tuned for an exciting upcoming opportunity to catapult yourself into GIANTHOOD!
Be True to You!
Intentionally,
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In this world we live, where money fuels the going arounds, you are always selling something. Believe me? You sell yourself a story about how the world works, about how good or bad you are, about what is right or wrong and about how others respond to you.
This article is intended to give you a boost in believing- YOU ARE GOOD AT SALES.
Sales and selling is really just getting your point across and helping someone make a decision on whether there is something exchanged for something.
Everyone is selling something- we’re selling ourselves and we’re selling others.
The question is what are you selling and what story are you buying?
Are you buying this story?
“Sales is arrogant?”
“I can’t sell.”
“I wish I were better at sales.”
“Self-promotion is arrogant.”
“I’m successful no matter what!” or,
I’m stuck, I have a hard time getting clients,”
“I don’t think I can do this.”
You’re buying a story from yourself, your family, your community, society...
So what is that story? When you uncover what you believe about 'selling' and 'sales' and 'people who sell,' you get to move into a different space and embrace your real powers of persuasion. Instead of persuading yourself that you're not so good at sales, you never want to be good at sales because it's slimey, or you are terrible at asserting your real value, how about DECIDING to PERCEIVE this whole thing in a new way.
Give this story a try out loud:
“I love giving people what they need and being able to hold space for the sacred conversation that fuels this process. It feels wonderful to receive my value in exchange for providing such results.”
Your subconscious mind is bent on getting buy-in from your conscious mind- UNLESS you reroute the story CONSCIOUSLY. Whatever your subconscious mind believes, it sells to your conscious mind (under the table). How do you re-route the conversation? Start to embrace how you are selling yourself on all of your beliefs. Then listen attentively to the words that come out of your mouth ALL DAY LONG.
What truth do you speak with such certainty that you could sell it to a child? What truth do you believe with your heart that you convey with passion and purpose? What do you believe in so much that you easily influence others to jump on board with? Break this down. It's worth one day to study yourself.
Sales is nothing more than a conversation.
Like every conversation, when you come from a place of integrity and deep faith in what you are sharing, whether it be a truth, information, services, a product, a thing, advice, directions- there is an exchange. The exchange can be energetic, it can be gratitude for something and it can be value for value.
In the specific case of selling your awesomeness, position or expertise, consideration in the form of money is a beautiful way to consecrate the exchange. Its ancient, its normal, it's accepted and it's functional.
Why is the Money Exchange Important?
Legally a contract requires an offer, and acceptance and consideration. Consideration can be anything of value.
When we talk about selling services, we’re really just brokering a deal to provide a solution for someone’s challenge or problem. A sale or selling (when it is invited or welcomed if unsolicited) is really just a form of sacred reciprocity.
Sacred Reciprocity is the intention brought to the exchange. It's an energy of flow that embues a powerful life force to a value for value exchange. What powers this process is KNOWING YOUR VALUE and CONFIDENTLY OFFERING YOUR SOLUTION to someone WHO VALUES YOU TOO.
The Money Exchange is a great opportunity to consecrate an agreement or contract that helps all parties know what their duties and responsibilities are and the more clear and direct, the better for all involved.
So why do so many people cringe and think they can’t sell or don’t want to?
People lack confidence in what they are selling- whether it’s their brilliance, expertise or ability to get the job done- once we close the gap on this little piece- the rocket takes off.
Here are 3 Tips to Unleash Your Inner Sales Mojo:
1. Embrace that every word out of your mouth is a prayer for it to happen. Speak your desires and only speak positively about yourself, others, selling and sales, and your ability to sell. Selling is magical when you embrace the art of Sacred Reciprocity.
2. Do that deep dive into your own relationship to selling and uncover all your hidden beliefs about sales, the process, what you like or don't like about it and why you think you're good or not good at sales. Then ask yourself if any of this is true. Get clear on what you want. Do you need to be persuasive, influential or good at selling (getting your point across and helping someone make a decision) in order to create the impact you desire? If the answer is no.... then carry on with your path. If the answer is yes, then determine to embrace sales as a form of sacred reciprocity and commit to mastering the art.
3. Ask for help (or DO self help) No one moves mountains alone. If you've read this far and feel a weird twinge in your gut, if you feel resistance to embracing all of this, if you feel resistance to self promotion or sales at all, you're probably cutting yourself short on your ability to have what you want. This can be in your own income, in your business, in negotiations, in opportunities, in funding for projects to help others and the world... the list goes on. PROFIT or NON-PROFIT - how we influence ourselves and others determines how far we leap to our destiny!
You are on this planet to contribute your amazing gifts and power. UNLEASH YOUR POWER and OWN YOUR VALUE by ALLOWING others to BUY it!
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Over the next month I’m excited to share more tips on how to unleash your inner sales mojo, turn on your powers of influence and own your value for real! I’ll be sharing two separate BRAND NEW happenings that are so exciting I’m oozing with joy to share!!!
Thanks for reading… comment or ask your questions and let’s move forth abundantly and confidently because heads up- you’re awesome at selling!
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I just returned from the AMAZON jungle. What I learned even more- is how and why we need to to be in 'right relationship' with ourselves and our surroundings at all times no matter what because we are ALWAYS getting MORE.
More of what is the question!
What does 'right relationship' mean?
Right Relationship is how we influence ourselves and everything at all times.
When we are not in right relationship- harmony- congruent open and reciprocal, we put the breaks on our flow. It's that simple. Cause and Effect.
So if you want _______, where are you not in right relationship in your life- and how is that contributing to you not having what you want?
If it's more clients- i have news for you, it's not necessarily about better marketing. It's about what's going on inside of you.
Funny story...
Here I am after 34 hours traveling, on a 4 hour boat ride on a gorgeous river in the Amazon- heading toward base camp and a funny thing happened....
We stopped at a check point where the biggest Iron Tree lives.
To visit the tree, you had to get out of the boat, step on the sand, and walk up a steep slippery slope. I was excited. I tromped off the boat and sunk 12 inches into the ground! Almost up to my knees. Both feet. Goodbye clean shoes! Hello mosquitos and welcome to the Amazon!
I paused.
I checked in with where my thoughts were- I was frantic, exhausted, judgmental and totally not present. It made perfect sense I got my wake up call from Mama Amazon the fist step I took on her!
It was a beautiful moment.
Being in right relationship is the magic involved in getting exactly what you want when you want it.
The more in 'right relationship'- expressing your natural gifts and talents and being open to the immeasurable abundance and ease that surrounds you, theeasier it is to manifest what you want.
There is a special formula though that most people miss, which includes bypassing the intricate web of the psyche.
Our psyche is a complex organism with it's own agenda.
How is your psyche stopping you? Do you have what you want? Health, wealth, business stealth? Do you feel directed and clear and certain of your success inside out? Is there a gap for you that would be helpful to fill?
Right relationship means taking action to fill that gap no matter what. Reach out and let's talk if I may be of service to you.
Intentionally,
Stephanie
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Maybe we deserved it, maybe we have bad luck, maybe we’re not good enough, maybe we’re just not meant to have what we really want in this life, maybe we’re not smart or good looking enough. Maybe we’re not sharp enough or savvy enough. Maybe we’re the wrong race, the wrong nationality, or we were born at the wrong time so our astrological chart has us cursed for the rest of our lives.
Dear Self,
You know that all of that is ridiculous. All of it. If you disagree then your own resistance to knowing the truth and your own desire to keep telling yourself a story that’s not true, will create the very destiny you’re choosing. Your outcomes will match the prophecy you ascribe to and that’s the end of that. If that’s what you want there is no point in reading on.
If you want to start making quantum shifts in your life from the inside out and you want to start seeing some majorly different results, it starts with you and only you. Your words, the dialogue with you and yourself and the conversation you’re colluding with in your community will dictate your outcomes like clockwork.
Here are 4 Reasons You’re Not Getting What You Want and How to Fix It:
*Heads Up- I'm going straight and direct here
1. You keep saying ‘yeah but’ and then telling a story of the past to justify why you can’t have what you want now- or why you don’t want to do something now. If you want a certain outcome and continue to revert to the past and what didn't work, you're making excuses for the future.
An excuse literally excuses the thing from happening that you say you want. Either commit to being congruent with your words and align them to what you say you want, or take responsibility and own that you don't really really want it. (I recommend studying Universal Law *ask me if you're not sure what this is)
2. You keep colluding with stories and problems you say you don’t want- which actually gives you more of them. You must commit to completely delete these woes from your dialogue and begin speaking only of what you desire. There is a formula for this! (My Journal of Increase home study course teaches this very science while teaching you how to increase your influence) .
What this looks like is- You say you are worried about the political debate currently happening. So you post articles and keep saying things about the candidate you don’t want to have in office. You’re effectively branding the person, helping them market themselves, and keeping the name front and center 24/7- or you’re colluding with the collective madness that’s doing it.
Another example, say you want to be thinner or more fit. You really really want this. You keep telling yourself a story about why you can’t be that way instead of committing no matter what to having what you want. Eating differently and exercising differently are parallel actions to the words we think and speak. (eat/ think --- exercise/speak) both of these are committed deliberate activities that deliver different results.
HINT: The beginning of a sentence doesn't begin with, "I want to loose 10 lbs and have a six pack so I'm going to ...." It looks like this, "I loose 10 pounds easily and quickly in a healthy way that inspires me daily to take action that strengthens my core and I see the beautiful six pack of strength there in front of me!" See the difference?
*This is not easy. It takes diligence, fortitude, commitment and willingness to admit you've been doing this all wrong your whole life and it sucks that no-one told you sooner- (or they did but we only learn what we're ready to learn when we're ready to learn it.) Hey I experienced the same come to truth moment. I wouldn't be lecturing here if I didn't KNOW this to BE TRUE!
3. You are focused on the future happening of what you want and worried it's not going to happen. If you want something- you have to align with it now. You want to get up and go to the bathroom. So you get up and go to the bathroom. Not much thought right?
When you want to double your income, what do you do? What thought pattern happens? What do you not do? What needs to happen that you’re not doing? If you’re doing everything you think you can do and you’re telling a story about a long sales cycle or a line of reasoning about why it’s not possible this moment, then you’re not aligned with this moment and the endless possibilities for abundance and money to come to you from anyone, anywhere and at anytime.
How to fix this is (I recommend an objective laser issue spotter to coach you here) to start being aware of HOW you think and speak. What's your default? How do you normally solve problems and what level of fear, doubt and worry are not paying rent in your head yet stealing all the groceries? If you want to change the outcome, how willing are you to engage new faculties that teach you how to think differently? I recommend taking this Self-Assessment (The Influence Factor Self Assessment) as it will show you where you're actually influencing your outcomes in the opposite direction than that which you say you want.
The number one key to aligning with what you want NOW is to speak in a manner that reflects your 100% belief that all channels are lining up for you to receive what you want. If you're not currently doing this, I HIGHLY recommend reaching out for support here- because it's the KEY to improving your results and it takes diligent self-study or an objective witness to point where you may be sabotaging (the blind spot).- we all do it and we all have them!
4. And lastly, you’re resisting help. I’m a coach. I work with people all day. I read betwen the lines. This gives me great insight into how we sabotage ourselves. I say ‘ourselves’ because I do it too. What I’ve learned is this: We can learn a lot about personal transformation, manifesting tools, affirmations, the power of ‘NOW’, the be present truth, and other very powerful ways to grow ourselves and transcend our challenges. There is a big difference between knowing and applying or embodying these principles.
You may cognitively understand it but are you really applying the power of now?
It takes me 4 second to assess if someone is locked in alignment with what they say they want or if they’re off. It’s also a quick adjustment AND it only works if there is NO RESISTANCE. So this 4th reason you may not be getting what you say you want is the power of the Universal Law of Resistance. You can’t have what you want if you’re full of reasons why it’s not possible.
How to fix this? Get in alignment quickly. How do you get in alignment? You first have to understand how why you’re not in alignment. What you want is there and possible for you within the realm of physics. And it’s our job as humans to figure our how to have what we want by aligning with it presently here now. It could be a really twisted journey to get there but it’s there.
The big take away is this. Release the need to be linear in thinking. Invite other possibilities. Speak only of what you want. Speak only of possibility until you believe it so so certainly. Speak only words of what you wish to experience. Learn this new language. We as a society have been taught to speak in a way that lacks service to our finest potential. You can change this quickly with the right direction.
The TIP of the DAY- learn how to speak what you desire.
Intentionally,
Success Coach, Business Strategist, Performance Specialist
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5 Steps to Tightening Your Boundaries for an Immediate Quantum Shift in Any Area of Your Life
2/24/2016
When you set a goal and condition it upon how much money you have, how much time you have, or how much desire you have, when the rubber meets the road, you essentially have one foot on the gas and one on the break.
What does that do?
It leaks energy all over the place, indecision runs rampant and you become blind to potential opportunities because you're too busy looking for your conditions being met. Are you resonating with this? Is this you or someone you know?
When we're in this state of gas/break - back doors open -leaking energy, we're unknowingly pulling everyone we come into contact with into our mess- or being pulled into theirs.
If you resonate with this, think of how this shows up for you. Are you consistently saying, "Yes I want to move forward and change ___" and then stop, start, subconscious programming spinning you in all directions? Are you reaching out for help and attracting others into your vortex of mushy boundary spin?
Or maybe you're on full speed ahead and you notice others around you in this space of
leaky energy which equates to leaky boundaries. Are you allowing them to pull you into their mess?
You may not be resonating at all -yet this very well may be you.
What happens when we're in this state- of either attracting others into our mess or being attracted into theirs- is always an opportunity for growth. Often we're not even conscious it's happening.
The symptoms show up as:
1. Feeling like we're not being valued
2. We give away our time, money and power and blame others for their craziness
3. We disempower others by coming to the rescue
4. We feel victimized by all this craziness 'others' are bringing to our world
5. We lash out and blame
6. We stay stuck in a spin of indecision usually laden with worry
I pick up on energy very quickly. One thing I experience when I'm speaking to a potential client or client experiencing this mushy boundary spin is that I start to get spun up in it. I love when this happens.
A big red flag goes up for me because I notice right away I'm off my flow. This helps me tune in and be of best support (or decide this client is not for me) because I see it and experience the visceral effect pretty quickly. I then get to apply my back door closing strategy with them which generates quick results so they have an immediate quantum shift in their lives.
Here's what you can do to experience a quantum shift right away
(*And if this doesn't work for you then reach out to me fast because it's definitely costing you money, time and energy to not have this little situation fixed!)
5 Steps to Tightening Your Boundaries for an Immediate Quantum Shift in Any Area of Your Life:
1. Crazy Honest Self Inquiry: Get really honest with yourself and ask yourself why this situation is showing up for you over and over. Notice the patterns and what triggers them.
2. Ask yourself how you are causing this situation. A little known strategy to own your life and take responsibility for all of cause and effect actually empowers you to create a quantum shift right away. This step is not about blaming yourself. It's about being objective, stepping back and saying, "How am I responsible for this?"
3. List all the places your back doors are open (escape hatch to actually doing what you said you want to do) and where you're not fully committed. Ask yourself 'why?'. Don't worry if you don't understand your answers. Often they don't make sense to the conscious mind but they are certainly part of an intricate and brilliant subconscious strategy to protect you (since that's what the subconscious mind is doing for most people who haven't done this level of deep dive yet).
4. List how each of your answers to #3 is impacting your life- finances, relationships, success personal happiness, health...
5. Decide what you need to and want to do about it and by when you will do it.
It's often easier said than done. I encourage you to pause and implement this exercise and see what you come up with. Who, What, When, Where, Why, How - are mushy boundary spins showing up in my life -either caused or attracted by me?
Was this helpful for you? Comment and share a nugget you're taking away!
Be true to you!
Intentionally
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Business/Life/Career Transition
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You've got a million things to do. You have more tasks than humanly possible to complete in one day plus family and life and exercise, meditation and time to pause and breath.
What's your modus operendi? When it comes to stretching how you handle what's on your plate so you keep growing and sowing the future of your dreams- you must KNOW YOURSELF.
Knowing how much is too much for you is key. By the same token, if you desire to accomplish more and would like to stretch so that you are able to take on more tasks and projects at a time while still showing up for yourself and intentionally steering the outcomes of your life, here are a few simple (not easy) tips to help you ease through when your plate is more than full:
Tip 1: KNOW WHAT is MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU and CHECK IN DAILY
-Starting each day knowing what is most important to you that day is crucial to stay in
alignment with your overarching values and desired outcomes. What's even more important than a daily check in is knowing what your goals are for the year (and longer term), having a road-map, action plans, accountability, your success support team and knowing what's important to you about achieving those goals or your big vision.
Knowing what's most important to you helps you check in with your daily importance meter. It's ok if a few weeks a year go by and you're overcome with things that trump what's important to you.
But, if you're entire lifestyle is not congruent with what you say you want to achieve and you're saying yes to things that don't help you get there- and no to things that do, then it's time to pause and get clear with yourself. Clarity and knowing what you want helps you stay congruent with actualizing your vision, knowing how much you can say yes to and having stronger boundaries so you focus and stay the course no matter what.
Otherwise, one more thing to the plate and soon you'll realize you were heading to Hawaii and you'll find yourself in Katmandu!
Tip 2: BOUNDARIES:
One of the biggest taker outers when it comes to staying on target to accomplish what we set out to do is weak boundaries. When we keep saying yes and adding things to our plate- even if they're things we really want to do- we have to pause and check in with how it will affect us and our original plan.
If you're someone who says, bring it on, delegates, leads and runs a smooth ship while enjoying work and balancing time for you/family/health/feeding your soul - then you probably have a good guage on your boundaries. If you're all business for one or two years because that's what lights you up and you have a big plan that requires serious focus- then you definitely need strong boundaries connected to what's important to you.
If you're someone who says yes then feels overwhelmed and resentful, you're probably up for a wonderful breakthrough around strengthening your boundaries. I used to think I had strong boundaries when it came to my time and focus. Then I realized it wasn't true in areas I needed it most- giving away my time and expertise for nothing.
It was a process of personal growth and standing in the truth of my value to strengthen my boundaries which in turn gets to empower others to stand in their own value .
I notice when I'm exhuasted or my plate is too full- my boundaries weaken. Why do you think that is? Because when we're overloaded and already stretched - we have less energy to tune into our intuition and hear what we really want to say. A no is a no. A yes is a yes and a maybe is a no until it's a yes. Firm boundaries allow you to hear your inner guidance say yes or no and remind you to stick to it and say what you mean.
When you're tired you have less decision making and will power available and you revert to default behaviors. If having weak boundaries is your default- know thyself and have a back up plan when you're tired!
Tip 3: STRETCH with GRACE and POISE:
If you're like me, (and not exactly like Richard Branson who says yes and employs a cadre of implementors on a flinch) when you feel overwhelmed and your plate is too full, you may pause and check in with what's important to you, realize this will pull you forward and then ask, "How can I make this happen and still __________-." Fill in the blank with what is important to you and what you're not willing to let go of.
How can I say yes to this and still accomplish all of my writing for the week, enroll new clients and give them my 1000% focus and energy as I enjoy doing, meet 4 new people a week who have populated my calendar, say yes to planning the gala, say yes to spearheading a new committee, plan the next event, have plenty of time for family, workout 6 days this week, meditate 20 minutes each morning and still show up for all of my other commitments?
Will this new thing add value to my life, business or purposeful pursuit? Will it pull me forward? Is it a long-term overwhelm or short term opportunity to stretch, delegate, ask for help, evolve to a new level of self-mastery OR will this pummel me over the edge making me want to cry?
Know yourself. We're all so different. Being systematic about how you grow and evolve is all about knowing you, knowing where you want to go, and knowing what's non-negotiable to get there.
Have fun and let me know how these go!
What is your biggest take away here about how you handle your flow when you add one more thing to your already over crowded plate?
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I remember when I was practicing law and envied people with cool lives where it was tax deductible for them to enjoy their passion.
If you've been reading my notes or have worked with me in the past- you know my shpeel is all about personal evolution. That's why I made the switch and chose personal & professional development as a profession. (Engineered this on purpose)
I had no idea HOW I could create a life like that though there was a very distinct moment I DECIDED I was going to figure it out no matter what. I made a choice. (Destiny Jump™ = Choice)
Next week is Destiny Jump™ - register
A One day Workshop in New York City where my guests are going to experience some wild out of the ordinary opportunities to tap into places they don't know they don't know - to find out what they NEED to know about their next steps in their careers, businesses and lives- to have what they really want- success inside out.
Would you like to find out things you need to know-- that you don't know --about your next level of personal and professional success?
Imagine, a window that would show you where you're totally holding yourself back in your life and HOW to move beyond it so you can have what you really want.
Then imagine that same view shows you the opportunities you haven't been seeing because of this not knowing what you don't know.
What does lawyer + business strategist + success coach + shaman - bring to this event? I'm going to open your window!
There are some spaces and I WANT TO INVITE YOU!
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Saturday, January 30, 2016
Time: 11:00 am - 5:00 pm
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Be True to You!
Intentionally,
The Place Where You Are Now
by Hafiz
This place where you are right now
God circled on a map for you.
Wherever your eyes and arms and heart can move
Against the earth and the sky,
The Beloved has bowed there –
Our Beloved has bowed there knowing
You were coming.
I could tell you a priceless secret about
Your real worth, dear pilgrim,
But any unkindness to yourself,
Any confusion about others,
Will keep one
From accepting the grace, the love,
The sublime freedom
Divine knowledge always offers to you.
Never mind, Hafiz, about
The great requirements this path demands
Of the wayfarers,
For your soul is too full of wine tonight
To withhold the wondrous Truth from this world.
But because I am so clever and generous,
I have already clearly woven a resplendent lock
Of his tresses
As a remarkable truth and gift
In this poem for you.
~Hafiz
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The short answer first: To HAVE exactly what you want in life and feel 1000% aligned, powerful and living on purpose.
The longer answer includes knowing how destiny and fate differ because you then get to tune into your life and your choices and realize where you are choosing fate instead of destiny. Very empowering thing to do.
Meditate on this: Choice.
Fate is this- if you are not thrilled about every area of your life- and you continue to live and do nothing to take full responsibility and change it, your life or that area of your life will have a certain story. ie. What's my purpose, how do I fully monetize and actualize my real purpose work in the world?
If you do not take solving this question seriously now and do what it takes to answer the call- life will look the same in 25 years. That's FATE.
The story from one area eventually bleeds over into other areas and soon what was once just emotional, becomes physical or financial, or spiritual, or relationships-- you get it, it's a holistic picture.
Fate is the outcome that is congruent with exactly where you are nowand the story you're telling now unless you choose something else completely.
Destiny is an option. Destiny requires choice. Not half in choice, it's all in- back doors closed, maybe out the window, choice.
What I know to be true is most people think they're choosing what they want but they're just choosing to want what they want. Not actually choosing the desired outcome.
I'll be teaching a special technique around this in Destiny Jump™ my live January 30th, 2016 workshop in New York City. here I've seen impeccable income strategies and plans around health, wealth, business, relationship... crumble without having this component of the Visioning process dialed in. I've seen meager simple strategies sky rocket success because the actualizer used my Destiny Jump™ technique.
Destiny Jump™ does not have to be a giant leap, huge life change, or epic right turn. Destiny Jump™ is a process I've designed that reprograms the limbic brain's decision making process and helps you have exactly what you want. It must be part of the tactical and logistical strategy. That's why we'll be working with both at my live event on January 30th. (lock in your ticketand save $100 until December 31st)
Our limbic brain is the reflexive ancient part of your system that decides outcomes based on a program or strategy formed long ago for good purpose. (on purpose). Hint: We are ALWAYS on purpose.
The strategy that is our default program may not reflect who we have become and who we desire to be. That's where frustration comes in. "I've done all this work, evolved myself personally, and why am I still ________ or not _______, why does my income not match or my health or relationships?"
The question is NOT why. The question now must shift to- what do you want and what are you WILLING to do to have it?
About Destiny Jump™: Actualize Your Purpose Driven Mission
- Destiny Jump™ is a one day workshop live with me in New York City on January 30th 2016 for Visionaries and Leaders with a purpose driven mission- OR the urge to uncover it now. There are 2 online events exclusively for workshop participants before and after the event!
- In this full day retreat you'll experience the Destiny Jump™ process and develop a plan to actualize your next steps to make your dream a reality. You'll blend left and right brain activities to create an action plan and monetizing strategy to reflect where you really want to be- thriving on purpose!
- Right now the the current investment is $97 to secure your spot at Destiny Jump™ on January 30th 2016.
- Tickets will be $197, and I would love for you to save $100 and claim your space with me today.
- Deeply from my heart this workshop is a sacred space I am honored to hold for the very tender and profoundly important destiny work of your soul.
- In other words, I take it very seriously that you entrust your purpose work with me and for this I am creating a very powerful and sacred experience where you engineer your outcomes and create the strategy to actualize your destiny driven mission.
Will you be joining me? www.destinyjump.com
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Business Strategist, Success Coach
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Author of "Soul Success: Success Inside Out" 2016
I'm not. Are you talking about politics? What words are you using? Our culture is spewing a lot of negativity into the cauldron of creation. If it is true that the words and intention behind them are what is actually creating our reality then we are empowered not only with a vote, but with how we speak about EVERYTHING.
How do you speak about money?
How do you speak about people you don't particularly like?
How do you speak about your health or challenges you have with you body?
The simplicity in this statement, "Change your thoughts, change your life," means nothing unless you get it for real. It doesn't mean spend 3 minutes in the morning writing your gratitude list and again before bed. It means committing on a disciplined level to change how you speak about your life and everything and everyone in it- no exceptions.
Since the affirmation community is a feel good space, there is very little instruction on how disciplined one has to become in order to truly apply these ideas or concepts. The book 'The Secret' gave a whole lot of ideas- but no strategy or step by step how to - in order to actually BE this new way of creating your life.
First it takes some truth telling. Here are 3 Reasons the Words You Use Are Creating Your Challenges (Listen to my masterclass Destiny Jump to hear the step by step HOW to change your words):
3 Reasons the Words You Use Are Creating Your Challenges
1. The way you speak about what IS, creates what you experience next.
Every moment of your waking and sleeping breath, your thoughts and how you believe the world works is creating your experience. If you believe life is difficult and you have to work really hard for your money and they'll take it anyway, and you can't trust people- then this will absolutely be your exact experience.
If you believe opportunities show up all the time and people are always there to help and you are wealth and always have more than enough, then your experience will be a whole lot different.
It's not just your belief though- it is the very way you speak about EVERYTHING that feeds your belief loop. This means you do not have to start by changing your beliefs. You begin by choosing a different experience. Then you begin speaking about everything as if that experience you are choosing is already here and you're words WILL align you to the realization of your new choice.
In sum life is about choosing every moment, how to perceive, how to speak, how to transmute into that which you would rather have instead.
2. The way you speak about what you don't like creates more of what you don't like.
To truly empower yourself, you must understand- not just intellectually but on a visceral internal, inner organ type level, that you are the master of your ship. When you speak about things you don't want or don't like- ie. political climate, worry, gossip- the exact words you string together and the intention you put into them - determine what happens next. Period. No maybes about it. (This is a science I break down in my masterclass Destiny Jump - access the replay here)
Here's an example, you are feeling anxiety about your next career move and you aren't sure what your purpose is. You know on a bigger level it has to do with 'x' yet you're not sure HOW you're supposed to actualize your true gifts or what you're supposed to do next that will get you closer to the life and contribution you want to experience.
So you tell your friends, your journal, your coach, you family, your pets... "I want to do my purpose work and I just don't know what it is. I have to leave this job but it's not easy, it sucks here and I don't know what is next. I can't figure out my purpose."
That feeling is going to perpetuate for a long time. Instead your words want to feel possibility, opportunity, open, expansive, curious, fueled by faith and certainty.
"I'm grateful to be feeling complete in my current position that has showered me with experience and abundance. I'm open and exploring wonderful possibilities and am being guided everyday toward what lights me up. This period of exploration feels so on purpose and I'm enjoying the revelations I have about myself daily."
3. The way you speak about what you want determines if you get what you want.
After reading the first two reasons, by now you may be getting the point. So I'm leaving this one to you. How are you speaking about what you want in your life? How are you choosing what you want instead of what you don't?
Do you value the power in how you speak, think and visualize your future?
I'd love to hear your comments below. What's a shift you'll make today that will change your tomorrow?
What if all of our purposes were really to change the way we are dreaming this collective experience into being? What would you dream instead and how would your words actualize that dream?
Access Here- Destiny Jump: Actualize Your Purpose Driven Mission ~ the Masterclass Instant Replay
A friend tells me this:
I would love a career where I can be a part of story telling of issues dear to my heart through video and other artistic outlets with a collaborative and creative team that inspire and that our work impacts others
So I reframe with this:
"I tell stories of issues on ____ through video and artistic channels with a collaborative team that inspires and impacts the world."
Nice.
All she really needs is permission- from herself. To say that. And do that. Because I see and have seen this for her for so long. The way I have seen this for so long and so clearly for this friend, in my mind it has to be an easy journey. I see the steps as well. This is why I do what I do! My gift is to see this for other people and help them get there, to that thing they always wanted to do.
There is an epidemic in the western world.
We're privileged with options, education, training and endless improvement yet having that thing we've always dreamed of, the career or work that truly feels like our life calling, it's this thing over there. We think only other people get to do those cool things or acutalize their dream job, dream business, company or legacy work in the world.
I'm here to say- give yourself F---ing permission!
Think about how many people are miserable because they would rather be doing something else. Why not? What stops you? What excuse? Nothing happens overnight so that's not being asked of you. Work towards that dream today. You'll be closer than you think when you actually do have more time.
I have to redo it everyday. I left practicing law to live my dream and actaulize my gifts in the world. It's not easy. I had identity issues- still do sometimes. I fight the deamons in my head. I'm a spiritual warrior, I work with mental science knowing full well my world is the splitting image of my thoughts. It's a mirror.
Our fear and doubt create obstacles, creates the idea of impossible. It's not true. Why should it be possible for someone and not you? You're educated, your smart, your savy, you've done business, you've already excelled in at least 5 things in your life so why the heck shouldn't you be able to excel at the very idea you have in your head- that happens to be linked to your unique talent, passion and interests?
Seriously, isn't that why we're here? Back in the village you were born and the Spirit keepers read your Soul and destined you for your purpose work in the tribe. You played your part because you had certain gifts to do that thing that needed to be done.
It's the same Universe!
The recipe of our Soul is the same! I urge you to decide this year. Are you going to let another year go by and NOT do what you're here to do? Even if you set out already to do it yet something has taken you off course- come back, recalibrate. Course-correct. You do get a do-over. What's the fear and doubt about? Are they real?
What if it does work?
What if you have no idea how? WHO cares! There are plenty of people (including me) who can help show you exactly how. Heck we can even help you figure out exactly what! People also think it's a shame if they don't know their purpose. Of course you do! Your purpose is what you're experiencing now. Right now.
How do you show up? What matters is your intention and what energy and focus you mix with desire for what's next. Your purpose may at this moment be seeking purpose. Not your purpose. Just purpose. Dive into the meaning. Contemplate yourself, your Soul. Contemplate your contribution.
NOTE: We've also been saddled with some big responsibility and expectation. It's becoming easier to be a millionaire, easier to start a company, easier to do anything you want and create the lifestyle you desire. So with this ease comes great expectation -from ourselves. Give yourself permission to want what you want and go after it. It doesn't have to be building a fortune 100 company! It has to be what matters to you!
My purpose is to help people unleash their potential- and be true to themselves and their destiny- their dreams...starting a business is not for everyone... so what- go leverage Google or propose a position somewhere that needs you and they don't even know it yet. Be entrepreneurial about your career or purpose path even if it's as an employee, in a company or whatever... if you have a burning desire, listen to it. It's speaking to you!!!
Dreams + Desire + Action = Destiny * Dreams + Desire + Inaction = Fate
Do you want to know the ONE thing that separates those who go after their dreams and make it from those who don't?
Incongruent thoughts and behavior. Sure if it doesn't work out you may say the difference are the ones who get back up and start again. But before that ... you have to look at thought and mindset as a real mental science.
Being congruent with what you say you want means you will duke it out with fear so it does not cut your destiny off at the pass. Fear and doubt will take you out unless you learn to dance. The dance involves more of the positive belief and commitment, more willingness and congruent thoughts, words and actions than the negative. More positive trump negative and you really are projecting either your destiny or your fate on the screen of your life. It is a movie and your mind is the projector.
What story will you tell?
Be true to you!
Stephanie
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