We think there is some abominable force out there messing with the market, ruining our life, throwing a wrench in our relationships, and keeping us from accessing inner and outer abundance.
Maybe we deserved it, maybe we have bad luck, maybe we’re not good enough, maybe we’re just not meant to have what we really want in this life, maybe we’re not smart or good looking enough. Maybe we’re not sharp enough or savvy enough. Maybe we’re the wrong race, the wrong nationality, or we were born at the wrong time so our astrological chart has us cursed for the rest of our lives.
You know that all of that is ridiculous. All of it. If you disagree then your own resistance to knowing the truth and your own desire to keep telling yourself a story that’s not true, will create the very destiny you’re choosing. Your outcomes will match the prophecy you ascribe to and that’s the end of that. If that’s what you want there is no point in reading on.
If you want to start making quantum shifts in your life from the inside out and you want to start seeing some majorly different results, it starts with you and only you. Your words, the dialogue with you and yourself and the conversation you’re colluding with in your community will dictate your outcomes like clockwork.
Here are 4 Reasons You’re Not Getting What You Want and How to Fix It:
*Heads Up- I'm going straight and direct here
1. You keep saying ‘yeah but’ and then telling a story of the past to justify why you can’t have what you want now- or why you don’t want to do something now. If you want a certain outcome and continue to revert to the past and what didn't work, you're making excuses for the future.
An excuse literally excuses the thing from happening that you say you want. Either commit to being congruent with your words and align them to what you say you want, or take responsibility and own that you don't really really want it. (I recommend studying Universal Law *ask me if you're not sure what this is)
2. You keep colluding with stories and problems you say you don’t want- which actually gives you more of them. You must commit to completely delete these woes from your dialogue and begin speaking only of what you desire. There is a formula for this! (My Journal of Increase home study course teaches this very science while teaching you how to increase your influence) .
What this looks like is- You say you are worried about the political debate currently happening. So you post articles and keep saying things about the candidate you don’t want to have in office. You’re effectively branding the person, helping them market themselves, and keeping the name front and center 24/7- or you’re colluding with the collective madness that’s doing it.
Another example, say you want to be thinner or more fit. You really really want this. You keep telling yourself a story about why you can’t be that way instead of committing no matter what to having what you want. Eating differently and exercising differently are parallel actions to the words we think and speak. (eat/ think --- exercise/speak) both of these are committed deliberate activities that deliver different results.
HINT: The beginning of a sentence doesn't begin with, "I want to loose 10 lbs and have a six pack so I'm going to ...." It looks like this, "I loose 10 pounds easily and quickly in a healthy way that inspires me daily to take action that strengthens my core and I see the beautiful six pack of strength there in front of me!" See the difference?
*This is not easy. It takes diligence, fortitude, commitment and willingness to admit you've been doing this all wrong your whole life and it sucks that no-one told you sooner- (or they did but we only learn what we're ready to learn when we're ready to learn it.) Hey I experienced the same come to truth moment. I wouldn't be lecturing here if I didn't KNOW this to BE TRUE!
3. You are focused on the future happening of what you want and worried it's not going to happen. If you want something- you have to align with it now. You want to get up and go to the bathroom. So you get up and go to the bathroom. Not much thought right?
When you want to double your income, what do you do? What thought pattern happens? What do you not do? What needs to happen that you’re not doing? If you’re doing everything you think you can do and you’re telling a story about a long sales cycle or a line of reasoning about why it’s not possible this moment, then you’re not aligned with this moment and the endless possibilities for abundance and money to come to you from anyone, anywhere and at anytime.
How to fix this is (I recommend an objective laser issue spotter to coach you here) to start being aware of HOW you think and speak. What's your default? How do you normally solve problems and what level of fear, doubt and worry are not paying rent in your head yet stealing all the groceries? If you want to change the outcome, how willing are you to engage new faculties that teach you how to think differently? I recommend taking this Self-Assessment (The Influence Factor Self Assessment) as it will show you where you're actually influencing your outcomes in the opposite direction than that which you say you want.
The number one key to aligning with what you want NOW is to speak in a manner that reflects your 100% belief that all channels are lining up for you to receive what you want. If you're not currently doing this, I HIGHLY recommend reaching out for support here- because it's the KEY to improving your results and it takes diligent self-study or an objective witness to point where you may be sabotaging (the blind spot).- we all do it and we all have them!
4. And lastly, you’re resisting help. I’m a coach. I work with people all day. I read betwen the lines. This gives me great insight into how we sabotage ourselves. I say ‘ourselves’ because I do it too. What I’ve learned is this: We can learn a lot about personal transformation, manifesting tools, affirmations, the power of ‘NOW’, the be present truth, and other very powerful ways to grow ourselves and transcend our challenges. There is a big difference between knowing and applying or embodying these principles.
You may cognitively understand it but are you really applying the power of now?
It takes me 4 second to assess if someone is locked in alignment with what they say they want or if they’re off. It’s also a quick adjustment AND it only works if there is NO RESISTANCE. So this 4th reason you may not be getting what you say you want is the power of the Universal Law of Resistance. You can’t have what you want if you’re full of reasons why it’s not possible.
How to fix this? Get in alignment quickly. How do you get in alignment? You first have to understand how why you’re not in alignment. What you want is there and possible for you within the realm of physics. And it’s our job as humans to figure our how to have what we want by aligning with it presently here now. It could be a really twisted journey to get there but it’s there.
The big take away is this. Release the need to be linear in thinking. Invite other possibilities. Speak only of what you want. Speak only of possibility until you believe it so so certainly. Speak only words of what you wish to experience. Learn this new language. We as a society have been taught to speak in a way that lacks service to our finest potential. You can change this quickly with the right direction.
The TIP of the DAY- learn how to speak what you desire.
Stephanie Trager, Esq.
Success Coach, Business Strategist, Performance Specialist
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